
Dear Zachary will re-air on MSNBC Sunday, January 4th at 11 pm EST
Hi Everyone,
I'm Kurt, I made the film "Dear Zachary", currently showing on MSNBC. I'll be doing a live newsvine chat following the premiere broadcast on the east coast time slot (Sunday, 12/7 from 11 PM - Midnight EST), and will be happy to answer any questions anyone has about the film and the case to the best of my knowledge.
This film is an invitation to become part of its story and Kate & David Bagby's still unfolding quest for change; if you were affected by what you saw and want to do something about it, I urge you to write Canada's Parliament to express your feelings on this case, regardless of your citizenship. It's very easy: for help on how to do this, go to www.dearzachary.com and click on "Support Bail Reform". If you are a Canadian citizen, the page helps you find your Member of Parliament via your postal code. If you are not, the address for the Minister of Justice & Attorney General of Canada is there for your use. You will also find a questionnaire in the form of a downloadable Microsoft Word document that can either be filled out and sent directly, or used as a list that can give you things to think about as you compose a letter with your own words.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch the film and for your interest in discussing this situation which is, as you know if you've watched the film, very important to me and the hundreds who loved Andrew and Zachary. More reviews and information can be found at www.dearzachary.com.
(Most of the questions and answers address footage or people from the film, so if you haven't seen it, consider this your SPOILER WARNING.)
pamelamarie asks:
can kate & david file a civil suit upon the canadian court system-specificially the judges that allowed her out on probation??
Kurt Kuenne:
They considered suing, but they didn't want Andrew & Zachary's names associated with money. (Nor do I, for that matter, which is why the proceeds from this film are going to the two scholarship funds in Andrew's memory.) The issue as we see it is not to go after specific individuals, but to change the system -- specifically, denying bail to people accused of murder pending a speedy and fair trial.
surfarosa25 writes:
I'm trying to get as many people to watch this as possible. This doc affected me so deeply. I cried when I found out that Zachary was murdered. I thought all along that the movie was going to end with David and Kate enjoying full custody of their precious grandson. I was comforted by my husband as I cried tears of empathy for the Bagbys. [...] I would love to send the Bagbys a personal email, is there any way to do that?
Kurt Kuenne:
Thanks so much for writing. It actually kind of surprises me that people don't immediately guess where the movie is going, because if Zachary was living I never would have released this project to the public. He would have had enough issues to sort out when he learned that his mother killed his father without his Uncle Kurt putting his private life all over the media.
So the only reason it is out publicly is because I felt it was my responsibility - as the only filmmaker friend Andrew had, and as someone who had been documenting this situation from the beginning, although for a very different reason - to tell this story publicly in hopes of preventing it from happening again.
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If you'd like to send the Bagby's a personal email, you can send to me through the film's website and I'll forward it on to them.
lmonette asks:
I have a 22 year old daughter who has similar personality traits as Andrew. [...] I would like to purchase a DVD of "Dear Zachary" so she can view it. She now has a 5 month old daughter and we'd all be devastated if anything happened to either of them. I am in Memphis, TN. Has it been released here yet?
Kurt Kuenne:
Hi Imonette,
It played theatrically in Nashville a couple of weeks ago, but I don't know that it will be playing theatrically in Memphis any time soon (though it did play the Indie Memphis festival a few months back). "Dear Zachary" is being released on DVD on February 10th; I believe you can pre-order it on Amazon.com...if not presently, you'll be able to soon.
[You can now pre-order Dear Zachary from Oscilloscope and/or Amazon.]
Tim-572578 asks:
Was anyone ever charged with any criminal negligence?
I always wondered if the doctor who posted her bail was sleeping with her. Did he ever get his license back? I hope not.
Kurt Kuenne:
In answer to your question, no - no one was ever charged with criminal negligence. And Dr. Doucet never lost his license; he was found guilty of professional misconduct and had to pay $10,000 to cover the cost of the hearing and undergo psychiatric counseling. I know that he left Newfoundland and relocated to another province, but that's the extent of my knowledge.
irisheleven asks:
How did you manage to finish this documentary Kurt? What a moving piece of film.
Kurt Kuenne:
I saw it as my responsibility; this was never intended for public release when I first began the project. It was only a personal project for family, friends, Zachary and the recipients of Andrew's scholarship funds (to whom the proceeds of this film are going).
But when Zachary was killed, after I picked myself up off the floor, I felt I had a responsibility as the only individual who had been documenting this situation since it started - indeed, I had been documenting this FAMILY my whole life without knowing it - that it was my responsibility to speak out for Andrew & Zachary and turn this into a project that would be accessible to the public, that would hopefully make the viewer feel what we went through -- and realize that it's too horrible to let it happen again.
Tim-572578 returns and asks:
You didn't spend much time covering this, but why didn't the Pa. or Iowa police arrest her? I know you said they were finishing tracking her cell calls, but why wouldn't they have at least had her surrender her passport? There seemed to have been enough probable cause and they knew she had duel citizenship. I'm not a lawyer or police officer, but I personally think they blew it. I know; hindsight is always 20/20.
Also, didn't an american lawyer reccomend that she flee to Canada? Did he get in any trouble for this advice? He is as much responsible for this injustice if he did, in fact, tell her to run.
Kurt Kuenne:
The PA police could not arrest her without an arrest warrant. They could not get an arrest warrant without probable cause. And until the cell phone records came in, they couldn't place her at the scene definitively, so they couldn't seize her passports (she had two - U.S. and Canada, because of her dual citizenship). So I don't fault the PA authorities at all, they were moving as fast as they could within the law.
In 2001, it took two weeks to go to each individual cell tower to get the records definitively. I just saw the D.A. in PA's Westmoreland County at a screening a couple of weeks ago, and was told that with the techonological advances of the last seven years, that process can now be done in 2 hours. Progress comes too late for Zachary...but in the future that will no longer be a roadblock.
As far as I'm aware, the American lawyer's official story is that he/she (I can't remember the gender) told Shirley to go to Canada to get emotional support from family after Andrew's death. (At the time that advice was given, Shirley hadn't yet been charged.) So, given that that was cited as the reason, there's no way one can get in trouble for giving that advice.
Gary Snyder asks:
Once Shirley crossed the border leaving the country, what was happening, if anything, here in in America regarding the work on proving her the murderer of Andrew?
Kurt Kuenne:
Thanks so much for tuning in. The U.S. authorities weren't able to charge Shirley until after she had already fled the country. The D.A. in Westmoreland County asked the State Department in Washington, D.C. to ask the Canadian Federal Government to ask the Province of Newfoundland & Labrador to extradite her. Once the State Department submits its request for extradition & supporting documentation, they have no more input -- it's entirely under Canadian control, so all they could was wait, make pressuring phone calls and be available for consultation.
I spoke with the Westmoreland County D.A. at a screening a couple of weeks ago and he told me that every time he called there to put pressure on them, he got a somewhat annoyed reaction from across the border that he would question how they were doing their job. At least, that is my recollection of his experience as told to me.
Thank you so much for writing and asking a very good question.
LHSMomx5 asks:
I would like to know if the Canadian version of our Supreme Court would have any punishments for the female judge that released that wicked witch on bail, such as disbarring her?
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Is there any funding set up [for the Bagbys] to assist them with their legal costs?
Kurt Kuenne:
Thanks so much for watching the film and for your kind words. Judges don't have to answer to anyone but higher courts for their decisions, so no, there has been no action against either Justices Russell or Welsh for releasing her on bail -- and technically, within the law, they did nothing wrong, as they did what they are allowed to do legally...interpret the law to release a probable pre-meditated murderer on bail.
That is why it is much more useful to look at the system as the problem as opposed to the individuals. If the law is changed - to deny bail to people accused of murder pending a speedy and fair trial - individuals like Russell and Welsh won't be able to endanger lives by making such decisions. If you go to my film's website and click on "Support Bail Reform" you will find information on whom to write to.
Your offer of financial assistance is very sweet, and if you would like to donate to anything, I encourage you to donate to either of the scholarship funds established in Andrew's memory, which assist medical students pursuing his specialty of family medicine (which is where all the proceeds for this film are going). Once again, go to my film's website (listed above) and click on "Donate".
Audree asks:
Do you think the Canadian justice system was lenient with Shirley, and if so, was it because she was a woman, or because she was a successful manipulator, or both ? I'm very interested because I'm working on a book about a somewhat similar sitiation also adjudicated in Canada, where, in my opinion, a woman was found less culpable than her male partner based on both her gender and her manipulative skills---you may be familiar with it, the 1993 murder case involving Karla Homolka.
Kurt Kuenne:
Hi Audree,
Shirley was a very good manipulator, there is no doubt, but I think the fact that she was a woman, a doctor, tiny and pregnant did indeed play a factor in the naive treatment of her by the legal system. Which is why, after considering this case for many years, I'm in favor of denying bail to people accused of murder pending a speedy and fair trial, because a manipulator only shows you what they want you to see; they'll behave as best they can in order to get what they want.
Therefore, you have to look at the facts of what they are accused of doing, and the air-tight nature of the evidence collected. (The Pennsylvania D.A. in charge of this case told me he'd rarely seen such an air-tight case in all his years and couldn't believe she was being allowed to walk free in Canada.) You can't use the looks and/or gender of the person as any indication of the kind of monster you may be dealing with. That's just my opinion.
Indeed, I am familiar with the Karla Homolka case, Andrew's father David (whom you saw in the movie) has introduced me to many such cases, which he became very familiar with while researching his book "Dance with the Devil".
Aimehio Iyeke asks:
Dear Kurt
Thank you for making this documentary. It broke my heart. My question is, Was there ever a morning when you were on your way to interveiw one of Andrews fellow loved ones and you just thought " this is painful" ? snf if so, how did you work through the pain?
Kurt Kuenne:
Actually, shooting this project was the most fun I've ever had making a movie because I was travelling all over, meeting wonderful people and hearing stories about Andrew, so the shooting of it was very pleasurable and very healing. At the time I was making this film, I wasn't making a "documentary" about the case, I was memorializing Andrew for Zachary, family and friends; I never intended to release the film publicly. It was hell living through what the government of Canada was allowing Shirley to put Andrew's parents through, but it was the process of living through it that was tough, not documenting it (because at the time, I wasn't documenting it).
So it was really wonderful to feel like I was doing something tremendously valuable, gathering Andrew's history for Zachary to see when he was old enough. Once my film's audience was murdered, I put the project away for a year because I wasn't even sure what I was doing anymore. But when Kate & David started speaking out for change, I realized that there was something useful I could do, which is turn this into a film that would be accessible to the general public, which is what I usually do in my professional life.
I cried every day while editing it, but the sense of having a purpose - that this film would hopefully create positive change in the world, as well as be a wonderful healing gift for Kate & David - kept me going.
Beth Gladston asks:
Please E-mail me the name of the beer that his friends just shared. Was it Foldgers3 something?
Kurt Kuenne:
Hi Beth,
The beer is Fuller's ESB, it's an English beer. (Andrew had a large English heritage as you can see from the film.)
kat72895 writes:
Kurt,
I think the story of Andrew, Kate, David and Zachary is a story of love and how it is impossible to kill it. I suppose that sounds rather corny, but it is what it is.
You know, sitting here, I can't even remember the name of the monster who killed Andrew and Zachary. There is a part of me that has a shred of compassion for her, as I know she was sick. But I also know how the system fails those who suffer from the wrath of other peoples sickness.
Kurt Kuenne:
That makes me very happy to hear that you remembered Andrew, Kate, David & Zachary's names, but not the murderer. In my personal opinion, our media gives far too much attention to killers and their thought processes. It makes me fairly ill that so many people can name killers by name, but no one knows the names of their victims. I had hoped that this film might begin to even up the score a bit, by being one of the first crime documentaries made from the point of view of the victim, where you came away remembering the life force that was taken, not the cloud that took it.
Gretchen P asks:
Do you have children of your own and what about Shirley's other children?
Kurt Kuenne:
Thanks so much for writing, Gretchen. I do not have children of my own at this time in my life, which is perhaps why I was able to emotionally get through the making and editing of this movie in its final form. (Though I do recall that while editing, I would take a lunch break and go over to a friend's house, see his 3 year old son and just about come apart...if that makes any sense.)
Shirley's other children were left with a horrible burden, and while I haven't kept close contact with them - the only one I have had contact with in the last 5 years is her son TJ, who you saw toward the end of the film. But I wish them absolutely all the best in dealing with a burden that no child should ever have to carry. They are innocent victims in this too. And I do hope that, if this movie helps cause some kind of change to the system, that it will honor the memory of their little brother.
Terri Sinclair writes:
First as a filmmaker the piece is brilliant. Moving and well edited you took a complicated story and in the course of two hours changed my world. My accidental viewing of the film was a stroke of good luck. I feel I knew Andrew in ways I don't even know my "best" friends. Heartbreaking story. Just heartbreaking.
I lost my best friend years ago in a murder suicide. I know what a tragic unjust loss feels like.
I want to return to the film but had to take a moment out to thank you. I can see what is coming for Zach and I'm not sure I can even watch it in one sitting.
I was a CASA, a Court Appointed Special Advocate for abused and neglected children. We are the voice of the child in the court system. I wish Zachary had a CASA on his case. I feel the outcome would have been much different.
Kurt Kuenne:
Hi Terri,
First off, I'm so sorry for the loss of your best friend. That's horrible.
Secondly, thank you for everything you're doing on behalf of abused and neglected children. We need more people like you there doing what you do. Andrew's mother Kate has now become a Child Advocate as well, and indeed, I agree fully that things might have been very different had he had a court appointed advocate. Kate & David were the only ones looking after his interests, and they had no power to be heard.
The point of my film, however, is that in this particular case, child protection would not even have been an issue if this probable accused pre-meditated first degree murderer had not been allowed to walk free on bail while awaiting trial in the first place. It wasn't just Zachary whose life was in danger. Andrew's ex-fiance feared for her life every day that Shirley was walking the streets, and with good reason. She received creepy phone calls, emails, Shirley even showed up on her doorstep at 1:30 in the morning.
Other med school classmates of Andrew's received phone calls from her that they deemed to be of a threatening nature and feared for their family's safety. The ones most concerned filed do not contact/restraining orders against her, but those are meaningless to a murderer. The last man she dated in Newfoundland was in grave danger as well, and it almost cost him his life too. The government was gambling the lives of everyone who came in contact with her, Zachary was the most vulnerable, easy target and he lost that gamble.
People are not charged with murder randomly; a team of professionals puts an enormous amount of time and effort into gathering evidence and determining probable cause. The statistics of one study I looked at in Canada showed that 85% of those charged with murder were found to have actually done it (I believe it was 77% guilty, 8% not guilty by reason of insanity - but they did it).
Being charged doesn't mean they're guilty, but that's a very high accuracy factor and a very high risk factor, and given the severity (and irreversibility) of the crime with which they are charged, it does not - in my opinion - make any sense to let someone with that kind of a charge on their head walk free until a jury has had their say. (And the speed to trial can be helped along great by the accused; in this case, Turner and her lawyer did everything they could to drag it out and slow it down.) That is my opinion after having lived through this experience, and this movie is my best attempt at sharing that experience with you.
blaisemd asks:
Was Shirley ever formally diagnosed?
Kurt Kuenne:
Dr. John Doucet was her personal psychiatrist during the period when she was wanted for murder in the U.S. and fled to Newfoundland. I don't know what his diagnosis was of her - I don't believe anything in their sessions was made or necessarily could be made public. But he did sign for $65,000 bail for her the first time she was released on bail, on December 12, 2001. He was later found guilty of professional misconduct for doing so, as you saw in the film.
But there was no formal evaluation ever done of her to my knowledge -- and even if there had been, she probably would have passed with flying colors, as manipulators know exactly how to behave to show others what they need to show them in order to get what they want. There was some talk at one point of doing a "psychological autopsy" after the fact, but I don't believe that it has ever been done.
If you'd like to know more, the entire Turner Review & Investigation - released on October 4, 2006 and shown toward the end of my film - is available in pdf form on my film's website.
Sasha-762874 asks:
what was the most difficult part for you in making the film?
Kurt Kuenne:
Making the film was actually a very enjoyable experience because, in the shooting of it, I was driving around the country meeting really cool people from Andrew's life [...] I discovered that the editing was also a chiefly enjoyable experience (though I did cry every day) because once all of the footage was in my computer, it was like getting to hang out with Andrew, Zachary and their whole group of family & friends every day.
The hardest part, honestly, has been touring with the movie at film festivals. Because when you go to a festival as a filmmaker, they have gatherings for all the filmmakers. And normally, that's a wonderful experience, and it was great meeting all these other interesting and talented people. But 40 times during the space of one evening, you will be asked, "What's your movie about?"
And over & over, lest I be thought rude, I'd have to tell this story - the most horrifying thing that's ever happened to me - and by the end of the evening, I'd feel awful, furious and angry with myself for having turned this sacred event in my life into a cocktail anecdote, if that makes any sense. But by the very nature of releasing this movie publicly - which I saw as my responsibility - I've put myself in a position to be asked that question, so I can't complain about it. But that has been the most difficult part for me.
Also, sitting through the 25 hours of phone call recordings between Andrew's folks & Shirley was the least fun part of editing. But it had to be done.
sara-762903 asks:
WHAT A REMARKABLE FRIEND YOU ARE! HOW ARE DAVID AND KATE TODAY? DID MAKING THIS REMARKABLE FILM BRING ANY PEACE TO YOU?
Kurt Kuenne:
Thank you. Making this film has been a rewarding experience because at least I feel that there is something I can do to be useful in trying to improve the world, to prevent this from happening again.
Whether it has brought peace? That I'm not so sure, I'd have to get back to you on that.
I'll have more peace if they change the bail law that allowed this to happen. My favorite part of this whole process has probably been at film festivals, right after the screenings end, seeing the standing ovation that the audience gives to Kate & David when they step up to the front of the room -- and then seeing the line of people waiting to hug them after the show. It's nice to feel that, even though I can't bring Andrew & Zachary back except on film/video, I'm able to bring more affection into their lives from strangers, who sometimes become new friends.
Rodger-762977 asks:
A question that I have is did Kate and Dave have overwhelming concern that Shirley could possibly take Zachary's life?
Kurt Kuenne:
Kate and David were concerned from the very beginning that Shirley might take Zachary's life, yes. That's why they had their lawyer go directly to Betty Day, the head of Child, Youth & Family Services at the time, to express concern about the safety of the baby because of the first degree murder charge against the mother. And CYFS did nothing to intervene, Kate & David were completely ignored. Because Canada was allowing this accused murderer to walk free, we all knew it was a possibility in the back of our minds, but there was nothing legal they could do to save Zachary.
jeff vaquera asks:
I wanted to ask, what moment you found to be most profound while you were in the midst of filming and what you first felt after you finally finished editing
Kurt Kuenne:
A few moments during the shooting felt really profound: the moment when Dr. Bill DiCuccio and I split Andrew's last beer; the moment when the park ranger at Keystone Park showed me where he found Andrew's body, walked me through his steps that morning, and I suddenly couldn't wait to get out of there and never come back; the moment when I realized I was photographing Zachary playing right below an urn of his father's ashes, the little guy having no idea what it was; the moment when, after arriving in Newfoundland, Andrew's ex-fiance saw my ice chest stuffed full of mini-DV videotapes of interviews with Andrew's friends and burst into tears saying, "It's like an urn -- of everyone's memories"; the moment when Kate had her accident (which rendered her unable to accompany us to the release of the Child Death Review in 2006), and my enthusiasm for finishing the film dwindled at the thought that she might never get to see it -- which was the moment that I realized I was really finishing this movie for Kate & David, and when I suddenly realized how I would be ending the film.
When I finally finished the final cut of the movie, I didn't really have a sense of completion, since I was frantic and exhausted, racing to meet the deadlines for Sundance and Slamdance...and then I kept wondering if I was really done. You're never really done until it's in front of an audience -- and even then, various distributors always need your to create new formats for different arenas. So that's a hard one to pin down...
LindseyLu33 asks:
Is there anywhere that donations can be made in Andrew or Zachary's memory?
Kurt Kuenne:
Yes, indeed. Two scholarship funds were established in Andrew's memory to assist medical students pursuing his specialty of family practice. They are:
The Dr. Andrew David Bagby Family Medicine Scholarship
Checks should be made out to/sent to:
Latrobe Area Hospital Charitable Foundation
(Important: "Memo" line on check to read: Dr. Bagby Scholarship)
c/o Latrobe Area Hospital
121 West Second Avenue
Latrobe, PA 15650-9905
USA
and
The Dr. Andrew Bagby and son Zachary Bursary Fund
Checks should be made out to:
Memorial University of Newfoundland
(Important: "Memo" line on check to read: Dr. Bagby Scholarship)
and sent to:
Mary Dray
Student Affairs Office
Faculty of Medicine
Memorial University of Newfoundland
Health Sciences Center
300 Prince Philip Drive
St. John's, NL A1B 3V6
CANADA
Hi everyone, web producer for msnbc.com here. You can find more information about Dear Zachary over at dearzachary.newsvine.com.
I saw you attempting to make calls to those involved. I don't know when this documentary was originally done, but since then has anyone spoken to or signed any kind of release or taken responsibility for Shirley's misdiagnosis or lack of responsibility?
kurt, thank you so much for doing the documentary. I'm sure you have touched people's lives. Its very sad that zachary had to die for everyone to realize the mistakes that were made! please send my regards to kate and david and thank them for their kind doings. take care!
My 14 year old daughter and I watched "Dear Zachary." It was amazing. It was truly one of the best films we had both seen in a while(although, so sad, so very sad.) It was filled with so many loving hearts. While this world seems to be filled with so much evil, Kurt was able to bring out some of the love in this world. Kate and David Bagby and wonderful loving people, and Kurt, you are too!!!
Thank you for sharing this with the world, we felt as though we were a part of it.
Blessings.
Lesa LePage & Lydia
Middletown, CT USA
Kurt,
This was one of the hardest things we have have ever sat down and witnessed. we are canadian and today it hard to be proud of my country lax laws. It's devistating that this beautiful and loving family was forced to live a nightmear TWICE and that the people put in place to protect them failed them in every way.
Having said that I am elated that you kurt have stepped up and not let their cries go unanswered. we are involved in film and this documentry was beautifully detailed and empathetically captures the small mercies along a unimaginably difficult path this family walked. we interested in seeing more of your work, please let us know if you have any previous works avalible to view or any plans in the future
Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone affected both directly and indirectly by this unforgivable woman's actions. Thank you for letting us be witness to your powerful story.
Kurt,
This film is the first film to move me to tears since Bambi died when I was around 4. I feel that I need to say how much I feel for you, and I really hope that everything goes well.
Also, your filmmaking skill is absolutely superior to that of anyone involved in Disney, or anywhere else, for that matter. When you wrote "Love, Kurt"... wow. I needed to grab the nearest cat and give her a big hug.
Thank you for the great mounds of emotion you have invoked in me,
Mark Berglund-
California.
Where to begin? I must say that I have never been so profoundly touched by a film. As much as the film is about an extraordinary individual, Andrew, I am just as inspired by his parents, Kate and Dave. To say that they are "good people" is more than minimizing the fact that they are an inspiration to all of us who think we love well. So many of us, including myself, think way to much about material wealth. I am envious of the wealth that Kate and Dave and those around them have that no amount of money could compare with. I am inspired. You must know this. Inspired to want less and give more. Thank you for sharing your life. You are pure and good and ironically, you, Andrew and Zachary are all angels. And Kurt is the messenger.
Kurt,
This is the first time i have ever even added my thoughts to anything on the internet.... It took me 10 mins just to be able to place this...... I must say from the bottom of my heart that this is the most moving thing i have ever seen........ What started from a getting ready to go to bed show has turn in to a fury of emotions from pure hurt to anger. With my small voice of one. A lot can be done...
Thomas A Primrose
Phoenix AZ
can kate & david file a civil suit upon the canadian court system-specificially the judges that allowed her out on probation??
Kurt, I feel just as everyone else. I have never seen anything so moving and touching as your film. Kate & David have my deepest sympathy. They are very strong and loving. I was overwhelmed by all I saw. I can't think of the proper words to say that hasn't been said already. May God bless all of you.
I was o kay till I saw Mack, Bob's friend. Mack, I hear you about not being happy doing the things you used to do with Bob now... this story is airing right now... I have gone through a rollercoaster of emotion watching you , his family and all of his friends go through this tragedy. I am a stranger to your lives but my dear man, I cried when I saw you in this documentary... the thing that hit me was this... dont be duped into unhappiness... it does Bob and Zac no good and it does you even less good... My hope for you is that you and all of Bob's friends and family live your lives like Bob and Zac are standing right there next to you egging you on, Loving you... proud of you, happy with you... thank you for being involved in this amazing film
Kurt... thank you for what you have done... It is truly a remarkably healing thing. God bless you.
Kate and David... You are inspiring and I will never forget your story... I am hoping to become an educator, I am at Smith College now getting ready to take licencure next year, I will hold your story as a reminder that much is left needed to be done for child advocacy. You are hero's but I am sorry this is so... I offer my love and condolences...
Bob and Zac both seem like such smile makers... I feel that they would be happiest knowing you all find happiness too. no matter what... I wish you all much of it!
Amanda
Kurt,
Your film is amazing. It's incredible the lengths you went in order to finish this. Andrew's son is very lucky that his father knew you, and on top of that I really hope your film helps make a difference in these cases.
I hope you realize that in your wonderful film, we can see glimpses of the strength, courage and love in all these peoples' lives. For Zachary, Mr. and Mrs. Bagby, and all their friends, I wish the very best.
There isn't more I can think to say, except thank you Kurt.
Kurt,
The story of Zachary and his father, Andrew, is heart wrenching, to say the least. I know there are no words that can offer you or the Bagby's or any of your friends or family any comfort, but I do extend my deepest condolences, warmest sympathies, and empathetic grief. You see, I have a daughter who turned 4 in August and am currently trying my best to gain full custody of her from her mother who has more in common with that @!$%# Shirley than you can imagine. She hasn't succeeded in killing me or my child as of yet, but I believe that if something isn't done about the child advocacy laws, not only in Canada but here in our own country as well, then my worst fears may be realized. I am truly inspired by Andrew's parents. They are not activists - they are angels! I only hope that as my own personal case proceeds, I, too, will have the same strength, courage, compassion, love, and resolve as them. For the past few months, after the judge granted joint custody to a woman who has already had a child taken away from her for being born with a methadone addiction, who kidnapped my child for a month earlier this year, who has prostituted herself, who has recently been released from a mental ward, etc., etc., etc., I have been more than depressed because I have to take my baby to this woman every other week not knowing if I will ever see my precious daughter again. And I feel just like Andrew's father because I think she does this because she knows the emotional toll it takes on my family and I. I could talk about this for an eternity, but that won't do much good unless action is taken. Thank you for your film and bringing to light the darkness which shrouds the legal system today when it comes to protecting our children. Please tell Kate and David that I am truly grateful for them as well. This story has reignited a flame inside my soul ordering me to never give up, even at the darkest hour. Thank you.
Your story touched me almost as deep as Kurts did, I hope you never give up the fight for your child as I can almost see your future in Kurts story. It breaks my heart to know that the system (no matter what country) can fail our helpless little chilren and no-one depends on the system more than they do. PLEASE never give up as God will reward you in the end. Bless you, Kathy
Some how my last comment ended up making no sense because I really did'nt know what I was doing or how to do it, my comment was meant for "Jon Dad", I can only hope this does some good and gets to where it's meant to be. Sorry for that, Kathy
Kurt,
Thank you for your response to my comment. I had one more question that I needed answered if possible, and only the Bagby's can do this. How were they able to still communicate with Shirley in a civilized manner even after they knew she murdered their son? I know Zachary was alive and well at the time and that was probably their only motivation, but they are still human and being human leaves us all vulnerable to human emotions such as rage and hatred and vengeance. I have watched this documentary five times now ( I recorded it via DVR ) and when I hear the phone conversations between Shirley and David, I am amazed at how calm David's voice is though I hear the underlying tone in his voice. How in the world were they able to sit in the same room with their son's killer and somehow manage to smile and communicate with her without placing a finger on her? I don't even know if they can answer this question, but if they can provide any clarity, I would appreciate it. I only ask because as my own case proceeds I find myself filled with so much rage when I am around my daughter's mother that it is only the sight of my daughter that calms me. However, being that I am human, sometimes words are said between the two of us infront of our child that I wish my daughter didn't hear - but I am not in any way, shape, or form sorry for the things I say to her because it is the truth of my heart speaking.
Kurt,
Thank you for sharing this story..giving light to this situation helps me to remember that we have to speak up for those that cannot.
That Zach had to die is heartbreaking...please include me in any email communications about these fine grandparents.
They have channeled their anger in a way that serves..so much harder, I am sure, than choosing to leave the planet.
Part of the story that tugs so hard to me is that a good man was loved and despite hooking up with she-devil, he was so much more than this story.
I was engaged to an ER doc that assualted me and left me in the desert because he did not have a way to handle his frustrations other than to resort to violence..this is the same story of this horrible woman that the court courted because she was a doctor..how blind
We go to trial next year and I will voice this violent incident for the people that will come in contact with him in the future
I have posted info about this Doc on Myspace and Cafemom. I'm trying to get as many people to watch this as possible. This doc affected me so deeply. I cried when I found out that Zachary was murdered. I thought all along that the movie was going to end with David and Kate enjoying full custody of their precious grandson. I was comforted by my husband as I cried tears of empathy for the Bagbys. My husband laid in bed with me as we discussed it together. I am reassured that the monster who committed these heinous crimes is being punished by the Lord. Andrew and Zachary are together and are at peace. Come Judgement Day, Shirley will pay for what she has done by taking these beautiful people off of this planet. I will most definitely be sending letters to Canada in support of bail reform. Sorry if I'm rambling. I hope the Bagbys read this. I want to say to you both that I offer my heartfelt prayers and sympathy. May God bless you both...
P.S. I would love to send the Bagbys a personal email, is there any way to do that?
It is a testament to your film-making and editing skills that we were blindsided with Zachary's death in your movie. I had a stillborn baby last year and have been doing my damndest to stay in the happy land of even-keel and avoidance. When you told us Zachary died it was like a floodgate opened. I was on the floor screaming and when Kate talked about the crematorium and her baby being alone I felt as though my heart was being ripped away. It was by far the biggest show of emotion I have had since Riley died. I don't know why a story that has nothing to do with mine has affected me so, only that it has. I know that closure is a bunch of crap and so all I am able to offer to the Bagby's is that you have added even more children to your family now and we love you too.
why i watch msnbc?
your program: dear zachary: a letter to a son about his father.
thank you, thank you for broadcasting this doc.
i have no more to write...............i can not write and wipe away tears at the same time.
thomas lopez-pierre
new york, new york
married father of two childred
Wow....fabulous documentary Kurt! Such a sad story, but you did both Andrew and Zachary justice. Be proud of your work.
David and Kate should be proud of their work as well.
Unfortunately pain and sorrow is what brought all of you to this...but through the pain, a lot of good has come.
Brenda
Dear Kurt,
My tears just flowed .......
Wow I just saw your film and I am speechless at the depth sorrow of the Bagbys, the wonderful life of Andrew and the unspeakable horror Turner. I am praying that Canada does change it's laws.
Yvette
I guess this is the best way for me to send a comment to MSNBC. This this the be best -- well developed documentary I have ever seen. I think it should be provided to a more prime time audienance. It is not just the story, but the way it was done. But, the story is critical. It just needs to be seen. I don't know what it will mean to people, but it will mean something special, and it makes a difference in people. Please show this film MORE!
Dear Kurt,
You are a true friend who loved and was loved. I was teary through most of it but I bawled at the end at the remarkable testament to the love and dedication of Kate & David. When so many things are bad in the world they are proof that it still pays to have morals and do whats right. I have a 22 year old daughter who has similar personality traits as Andrew. She 's very trusting and believes the best of everyone, and wouldn't dare think anyone would hurt her. I would like to purchase a DVD of "Dear Zachary" so she can view it. She now has a 5 month old daughter and we'd all be devastated if anything happened to either of them. I am in Memphis, TN. Has it been released here yet?
I'm glad to hear that it will be released on DVD that soon. I want to purchase it and show it to everyone I know.
-Jenni
I followed this case from the beginning and read the entire final report (It was an amazingly well written/researched report). I didn't think I could feel any more upset about what happened, but seeing how horrible the Bagby's were treated by the Canadian Judicial System and Social Service System makes me sick. I just watched your film hoping for a different ending. Your film truely honors the Bagby family and their friends.
Mr. and Mrs. Bagby are remarkable people. We should all have the grace and courage these two have shown.
Was anyone ever charged with any criminal negligence?
I always wondered if the doctor who posted her bail was sleeping with her. Did he ever get his license back? I hope not.
Once again, you made an amazing film that shows how special your friend was, and how special his parents are.
Tim
My husband and I thought the same thing. They must of had a relationship that went further than the normal patient/doctor relationship. There are a lot of people with Zachary's blood on their hands. Even if they escape justice in this life, they certainly won't escape it in the next.
Hi Kurt,
Your documentary was one of the best movies I've ever seen; it was also the most painful. What can I do? Who do I need to fight for so that this doesn't happen again? You, Mr. and Mrs. Bagby and your entire friend base are absolutely wonderful and amazing! Andrew and Zachary had to be angels to have all of you as friends and family. All of God's Blessing to you, the Bagbys and your friends.
Julianna Koster
How did you manage to finish this documentary Kurt? What a moving piece of film.
Kurt,
Sorry to repost, but I had a couple of more questions.
You didn't spend much time covering this, but why didn't the Pa. or Iowa police arrest her? I know you said they were finishing tracking her cell calls, but why wouldn't they have at least had her surrender her passport? There seemed to have been enough probable cause and they knew she had duel citizenship. I'm not a lawyer or police officer, but I personally think they blew it. I know; hindsight is always 20/20.
Also, didn't an american lawyer reccomend that she flee to Canada? Did he get in any trouble for this advice? He is as much responsible for this injustice if he did, in fact, tell her to run.
Tim
Dear Kurt,
To be honest, I caught a brief commercial this past week about your amazing documentary piece, Dear Zachary, and was intrigued yet did not mark it down to watch. Today I came across the premiere showing and was mezmerized. In the end, I went through a range of emotions including most overwhelming disbelief. The honesty of feelings captured in your work was very moving and had me in tears more than once. I recognize that you faced a very challenging time that you were unsure of what to do with the concept of the project given the outcome. In the end, it is serving a larger purpose to allow the world insight to injustice existing within our established justice systems. My question for you is regarding the legalities within the U.S. Once Shirley crossed the border leaving the country, what was happening, if anything, here in in America regarding the work on proving her the murderer of Andrew? I realize that the story line concept was meant to present something for Zachary. However a part of me just can not fathom that for so long Shirley was allowed to live abroad yet it appears that she was known to be Andrew's killer. Any insight you have, recognizing you are not a lawyer, would be helpful for others to learn from. Thanks again for all the work, dedication, energy and endless amount of love you have in this endeavor.
- G. Snyder
Kurt -
Your wonderful documentary and tribute to your friend Andrew Bagby has made me feel as if I knew him, too. They say that justice is blind, but your film certainly brought out just how far that blindness can go. David and Katie Bagby are the parents we all wish we had, and I hope all children can look up to them as someone who is fighting the battle for them as well.
I would like to know if the Canadian version of our Supreme Court would have any punishments for the female judge that released that wicked witch on bail, such as disbarring her? I know you had included that the social worker quit among the scandelous news about poor little Zachary, but I would like further justice to prevail for the Bagbys. It won't bring back their precious boys, but they deserve SOMETHING for being the wonderful parents/grandparents they are in trying to get justice for their son and grandson. Is there any funding set up to assist them with their legal costs?
Thank you, Mr. Kuenne, for sharing your loving, caring thoughts on what a wonderful man Andrew was, and for thinking of the baby to write this letter to him. You, too, must be a wonderful man to think of that child, despite the circumstances of his arrival in this world, to make sure he knew his father.
We saw the movie in Saint Louis and Kate had asked me a question about our son Denver, as we lived in San Jose and Saratoga and our son is 6 weeks older than Zachary. I was so flustered after having watched the movie, I could not answer a very simple question. My Obstetrician at O'Connor was Violetta Faryno and she was simply amazing.
Kate, and David you are stunning examples of what parents and grandparents are. Thank you so very much for sharing this movie and treating my husband and I so warmly at the Saint Louis screening.
Respectfully,
Jessica and Dallas Beek
I find it amazing that you would go across North American and make the movie. He would be very proud of you. The tears flowed like a water faucet. Thank you very much for making this.
Sincerely, Dylan
Kurt,
You have done a truely amazing job with this documentary. At the present time, I am watching it for the 2nd time and still completely mesmerized by it. I have felt every emotion possible in the spectrum and I have never felt so completely overcome by 1 single story in my life. My heart goes out to you as I am sure this was difficult to complete...reliving the entire story over and over. You did such a wonderful job portraying who Andrew is, I am saddened that I didn't know such a wonderful person. Andrew was no doubt one of a kind in this world and didn't deserve the fate he received. No justice served has hurt all of you involved as twice they didn't serve and protect as we are led to believe. The only solice I seem to find right now in this story is that Andrew and Zachary are most definately together now as it should be. Kudos on telling the world a story to bring change but most of all for us all to know through your eyes how amazing this family is.
Sincerely,
Kelly Buggan
Do you think the Canadian justice system was lenient with Shirley, and if so, was it because she was a woman, or because she was a successful manipulator, or both ? I'm very interested because I'm working on a book about a somewhat similar sitiation also adjudicated in Canada, where, in my opinion, a woman was found less culpable than her male partner based on both her gender and her manipulative skills---you may be familiar with it, the 1993 murder case involving Karla Homolka.
I can't stop crying......your film is so many things. You are a true angel and Andrew, Zachary, and so many others are so blessed because of this piece.
I am still watching and feel as though I am on an emotional roller coaster. Kurt, you have made myself, and many more I'm sure, feel as though we knew Andrew. What a horrible, wonderful, remarkable tribute to Zachary's father.
My question is: Did or do you have any reservations as to how Zachary might feel conflicted about the woman who, though his maternal mother, killed his father?
Sorry to re-post, I just wanted to tell you I think you did a fantastic job. I've been trying to write about my case for over a year now, and it never stops making me as angry as it did the frist time I heard about it----and I don't even know any of the principal players in that case personally, so I can imagine how difficult this must have been.
Dear Kurt
Thank you for making this documentary. It broke my heart. My question is, Was there ever a morning when you were on your way to interveiw one of Andrews fellow loved ones and you just thought " this is painful" ? snf if so, how did you work through the pain?
Powerful depiction of human relationships--judicial system failed Zachary's parents and above all failed to do what was morally right. Wonderfully produced and riveting drama.
Wow, I can't believe what i just watched and am watching. I wish the live talk was now, (10:05 P.M. Sun. night). I am so tired and have to get up in the morning for work; (Dental Hygienist). All I can say is that I wished I had known Andrew. To Kate and David, I wish you the best in getting full custody from this evil maniac. I just stopped typing to see more of the program. Please E-mail me the name of the beer that his friends just shared. Was it Foldgers3 something? I am sorry, I am so tired. I have to go to sleep but when I have some time to sit in front of the fire I am going to drink one of those beers, if I can find it here on Long Island, N.Y., with my friends and or my sisters, and tell them about what I had watched this night. I will talk about Andrew and his parents and about their plight. It makes me feel really good that there is a Zackery Bagley in the world. Hope God puts him in Kate and Davids hands for good. Good night, Beth Gladston.
Oh wow Beth. You are going to be so angry when you find out the rest!
Kurt,
I have almost stopped crying... all I can say is thank you for this amazing portrail of Andrew, Kate and David. This film should win an award. God bless you for making the film and making a lifetime of memories for little Zac.
Samantha
St. Louis, MO
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